The Finalized Fifth Chapter of Grief: Is Grief Normal?

Today is the finalized fifth entry of this blog that I wrote about grief is normal if you think that way. Here is the story below:

Grief is of course true story to everyone who experienced mourned their loved ones death. They know that the loved ones cannot bring back to life again, but the loved ones will reside on life by God. What about you? Is grief normal for you to grieve the death of your loved one? You are a human. You can feel anger, confusion, and fear. Also, you can't hold back tears. Really, it is naturally you react emotionally when someone you love dies. Remember Jesus' close friend, Lazarus died? Jesus wept. 

When your loved one died, you may feel confused. You was hopeful that a person is alive. It's true that you tend to deny that the death has occurred. But that person is dead. Get over is not so easy. Because of it is good that you remember God made man to live, not to die.

How can you shares your feelings about the death of your loved one? You deal with them openly. Not to isolate yourself if you are opened and share your feelings. Find a good listener, a friend who will understand that your many feelings are normal reactions to your bitter grief.

What Hope That Comforts You?

John chapter five explains a hope of the resurrection on Life. It does not means to eliminate grief but, you will remember your loved one. As a result, your pain of losing someone you love will gradually recovery and know that your loved one will reside in paradise as Luke 23.43.

The end of chapter, but more is, we are a human. We do still have our feelings to share more than just hating ourselves, depression, loneliness, shyness, and grief. 

Introduction and Chapter One: Why I Don't Like Myself and How Can I Like Myself?

As dedicated to the late beloved comedian, Robin Williams, I want to share the story about why I feel this way. This story is based to not only me, but related to everyone who have experience. I am writing the five chapters about the feeling are 'dislike myself', 'depression', 'loneliness', 'shyness', and 'grief'. The first chapter I wrote for today is here below:

Why I Don't Like Myself?  

My story is not special. I has an experience of having no assertion. Because of people tend to force me what I don't like. This makes me not like myself, but I learn a lesson is to love my neighbor as myself. 

My limitation frustrates me, because of what my abilities are. For example, no freedom for me. It is truly based on my experience. I cannot achieve to make my parents release me to freedom. 

I had a learner's permit. I tried to get my parents and people who I know (have a driver's license) teach me how to drive, but none of them want to teach me. So I tried again to get my learner's permit back but I had to start over again to take a test and I failed so many times. I cannot achieve to pass that tough second learner's permit test. It frustrates me! How wrongful they are!

How Can I Like Myself?

There are two skills that I can do for the people. 1) I cook a meal and feed  the hungry people. And 2) I give the medicine and care the sick people. These are the skills that I can do, but I have only food certification in my real world job. I do not work as a nurse in the real world hospital job. The qualities that I need to practice are studious, patient, compassionate, generous, and kind.

My making the dinner 

What are my brief checklist?

1. I set realistic goals are learning how to compose the music for my poems/lyrics, learning French, and learning how to sew the dolls.

2. As a good worker, I can take a pleasure in whatever work I do at home or home school by doing it skillfully and conscientiously.

3. I pick my friends carefully who are truly interested in my welfare, ...build me up.

4. I can be a  closet friend of my God. He is my high and my fortress. James 4:8 helps me how to draw closer to Him.

The next chapter 'depression' I will post tomorrow.