Chapter Three: Why Won't Kids Leave You Alone?

Today is the chapter three that I wrote about the reason why kids won't leave you alone. Here is the explanation of reason for you to understand.

On the priority of first day of your school, did you feel afraid of going back to school because of bullying triggered you? There are some bullying ones happen at school. Even since a group of young boys, for instance, once insulted Elisha. They did show disrespect to his office and cried out: "Go up, you baldhead! Go up, you baldhead!"

One of the authors who wrote Growing Pains in the Classroom recalls when that author was in 9th grade said, "Being the smartest kid and the shortest kid in the room was a disaster combination..." In addition to call 'a walking dictionary'... The author of The Loneliness of Children adds: 'Children with disabilities are ready to target for teasing by other children.'

Many youths are defenseless in the face of peer cruelty. One youth recalls the reason of teasing and annoyance that each classmate does, he was so scared and unhappy... He couldn't concentrate on his studies.

God does not view the butt of bullying as a laughing matter. Consider my experience of a childish middle-aged woman who she did not leave me alone. She did show me her rough personality. She was always insults me and assails me. And she took my future as making an envy not in herself, but makes me feel envy. Until I moved out to the new area as to not see her again unless if I can afford to visit. Actually, I'm not envy. She is envy toward the love of young women. I know that it is not necessary for me to malice her because of I let God takes care of her.

Why does it bullying you? It is because of the bullying ones don't view as a Christian as you are living in Godly standards. You may wonder how they leave you alone. At first, try understand why they tease you. Laughter is happened to a group of youths harass someone. Often the bullying ones believe that putting someone down make them feel better.

The bullying ones also jealous at you when you are exceptionally bright or favored by your teacher. They are insecure, trust me. Jealous is unloved as the insecurity. Likewise without love is death as hate lead to death. 

Are you going to be happy when there are no bullying ones in your school? Rarely, try to return evil for evil to no bullying ones and keep conquering their evil action with only the good example. Additionally, do not let any bullying one break your spirit. Granted, it hurts if someone pokes fun at your looks. It is not necessary for you to malice them unless your looks improving the inner beauty and better. But, if someone still laugh at you, see their humor in it. Laugh at them and prove them wrong. Remember the bullying ones want to entertain your reaction and your misery. So the best way is to defense yourself and ignore them. 

King Solomon further telling you to not pay attention to everything people say about you. If you believe in God and have a friendship with Him, you are so strong that you have confidently to withstand the unjust verbal attacks and physical attacks. The next chapter I will explain how you get along with your teacher by tomorrow or Monday. Have a good long weekend. 

Chapter Three: How Can I Make Loneliness Out of My Life?

Today is the third entry of this blog that I wrote about how to eliminate loneliness. Here is the story below: 

In the serious story of my life, I feel like loneliness cut me off from the world, makes me feel lonely, useless, and empty. It's not so cool. It's bloody as hell! And because of that is a warning sign, like the hungry people need food to breathe and live. Loneliness warns me that I need companionship, closeness, and intimacy to make me feel well. At that point, I need a lot of friends to build me up. Instead of like a weak cottage near the lake that occurs to eventually collapse and destroy. 

What I Do When I'm Alone But I'm Not Lonely?

I like to relate to a 20-year-old Bill said about his interesting in the nature. Here is the picture that I snapshotted almost two years ago in Maunabo. 

I like what Bill said in above the picture because when I'm alone on travel, I always love to see the nature and that gives me the bright pleasure.

In old times, I used to like writing the letters and mail them to some of my friends. But now I have email and Facebook, I can send a message to each of my friends and tell how was their day. It's not how lonely I am, because of I know they like to receive a message as not to make them say 'boring'. We are not missing because we can stay in touch by using email, Facebook, instant messaging, text messaging, Skype, or videophone at all the times. 

What is chronic loneliness?

Chronic loneliness is the victim of people who have no one to talk to for the longest time and feel neglected or shunned. That is not so cool. A person who have experience of three things that victimized him:

1. 'He feels unattractive': He feels bad when he cannot find a woman that loves him. 

2. 'He feels uninteresting': He feel lonely when nobody is interesting to talk to him.

3. 'He feels worthless': (As previous chapter that he compares my situation.)

Breaking My Loneliness

I need to get involved with other people. I'm working on widen out and show my feeling for them. I'm caring for others and I'm motivating others to take an interesting in me. 

In my view on some of you say, "You get me attention on you. Don't get me attention." is the main way you said that to person causes him or her to feel lonely in the world. What do you think? Do you think that lonely people are nothing? The good answer is no. Why not? Because of the loneliness is a warning sign, the lonely person need friendship. So, your saying that to a person is really wrong and it's so disgusting. I just need to let you all know that it is my view, and yes that is serious and true.

I know when I sit back and wait for people to talk to me is not working. I have to be friendly  and talk to them. Otherwise people will think I'm stuck up if I do not associate with them. So at first, I starts to smile and so they might like to smile me back. 

Having a conversation with people is worth breaking my loneliness. I practice with meeting the new people that starts with "Hello. My name is Loiriam. I'm from Buffalo, NY. What's your name? And where are you from? ... Nice to meet you." Then if interesting, we can make the new friends.  After we know each other for the long time, kind acts and a generous spirit will help me to build  my precious friendship.

I also remind myself that I will never has a friend to put me down. If a person who put me down, then that is not a friend. 

The next chapter 'shyness' I will post this weekend or Monday. Let's see. I hope you have a good weekend. Yours, Loiriam 

Introduction and Chapter One: Why I Don't Like Myself and How Can I Like Myself?

As dedicated to the late beloved comedian, Robin Williams, I want to share the story about why I feel this way. This story is based to not only me, but related to everyone who have experience. I am writing the five chapters about the feeling are 'dislike myself', 'depression', 'loneliness', 'shyness', and 'grief'. The first chapter I wrote for today is here below:

Why I Don't Like Myself?  

My story is not special. I has an experience of having no assertion. Because of people tend to force me what I don't like. This makes me not like myself, but I learn a lesson is to love my neighbor as myself. 

My limitation frustrates me, because of what my abilities are. For example, no freedom for me. It is truly based on my experience. I cannot achieve to make my parents release me to freedom. 

I had a learner's permit. I tried to get my parents and people who I know (have a driver's license) teach me how to drive, but none of them want to teach me. So I tried again to get my learner's permit back but I had to start over again to take a test and I failed so many times. I cannot achieve to pass that tough second learner's permit test. It frustrates me! How wrongful they are!

How Can I Like Myself?

There are two skills that I can do for the people. 1) I cook a meal and feed  the hungry people. And 2) I give the medicine and care the sick people. These are the skills that I can do, but I have only food certification in my real world job. I do not work as a nurse in the real world hospital job. The qualities that I need to practice are studious, patient, compassionate, generous, and kind.

My making the dinner 

What are my brief checklist?

1. I set realistic goals are learning how to compose the music for my poems/lyrics, learning French, and learning how to sew the dolls.

2. As a good worker, I can take a pleasure in whatever work I do at home or home school by doing it skillfully and conscientiously.

3. I pick my friends carefully who are truly interested in my welfare, ...build me up.

4. I can be a  closet friend of my God. He is my high and my fortress. James 4:8 helps me how to draw closer to Him.

The next chapter 'depression' I will post tomorrow.