Thursday, March 26, 2015

Chapter Two: How to Say No to Premarital Sex?

Many of young people wanted to know how to say no to premarital sex. They can  be reminded of Psalms 119:9-11. Let's read.

Good Heart

To keep God in your heart requires first that you read and study the Holy Scriptures. This can help you to keep God's law. In addition to read, listen, or don't do the sexual appetite. So strictly avoid premarital sex! Think of how to stay chaste and clean.

One's close friends who stay chaste can have a great influence. As Psalm 119:63 says, I am a companion of all them that fear thee, and of them that keep thy precepts.

Do you have the friends who are really thriving in God's orders? If you choose the friends who love the Lord, then you do what Proverbs 13:20 tells you.

However, dating and courtship often present the greatest challenge to remaining chaste. The reason is with temptation, you are bringing in no acquaintance. So how can you get better acquainted with someone you are dating and pursuing marriage and still keep chaste?

Avoid the Hiding Danger When Courting

Jeremiah 17:9 warns: The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?
You may perfectly feel normal with attracting to someone of the opposite sex. But the more you're around each other, the greater the attraction. And this normal desire can lead your heart away from the correct path. Jesus says, For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies.-Matthew 15:19

A couple engaged in stroking the skin, or touching the private parts. One unwed mother confessed, "To me and to most of the kids I know, it just kind of went a little further each time, and finally you aren't a virgin anymore. You start out to do a little petting, and before you realize what is happening, you can't stop."

In order to avoid falling into sexual immorality, you need to lead your heart. Don't let it lead you. How can you do that?

Set limits
You may feel that your girlfriend or your boyfriend expects you to start kissing and caressing, when in reality she or he not. Only by pride cometh contention: but with the well advised is wisdom. (Proverbs 13:10) So if you are dating, let the other person know how you feel about your situation. Express of affection with wise. Meanwhile, you don't give out the mixed signals. Dress appropriately, without revealing the sexy clothes. 

Avoid the temptations
The Bible tells about a man invited his girlfriend, a young virgin woman to hike with him to keep away from other people spot in the mountains. His motive was, thus, they could enjoy the beauties of early spring. But, her brothers found out about planning for the short trip and felt unfairly put a stop to it. These brothers knew well the power of temptation under such circumstance. (Song of Solomon 1:6; 2:8-15) Also, avoid circumstances that could lead you to temptation, such as being alone in the house, an apartment, or in a car with someone you are dating. 

Know your limitations
There are times when you put in danger of enticing the sexual activity than at the other times. For example, you may be losing the self-control because of some personal failure or disagree with your parents. It doesn't matter when you are in that situation, you still need to be careful.-Proverbs 24:10

Say no to premarital sex and mean it
What can a couple do when their emotions cause to become more serious and they find themselves becoming dangerously intimate? To say or do something that breaks the mood. Debra was alone with her boyfriend in car in a lonely place. When the emotions began to escalate, Debra said to her boyfriend, "Isn't this necking? Shouldn't we stop?" That broke the mood. He immediately drove her home. It is not so easy to say no to that situation. But if you don't walk away, you'll be sorry!

Have a chaperon
Though your view on chaperon is an old-fashioned. It is still a good idea to have the third person who watch over you and your boyfriend or your girlfriend. Yea, it looks like the third person don't trust you two. But the question is, is it wise to trust oneself? Read Proverbs 28:26 and see for yourself. Accept the third person to join you on a date. Being chaste is respectful and that honour the Lord. 

Friend With God

Being a friend of God will help you avoid conduct that offends Him. Express your heart by praying God about the specific situations will draws you closer to Him. If you wish to 
remain chaste and even pray about your charged situations, God will be happy to give you the strength that you need. Be assured that with God's help and blessing, you can bravely say no to premarital sex.

The next chapter "Is Masturbation a Sin?" that I will post it on this weekend or on Monday. Xo, Loi

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