Chapter Four: "How to Know a Real Love?"

A starry-eyed romantic is a tragedy that holds you, a once-in-a-lifetime feeling of pure ecstasy. People believe that love is strictly an affair of heart, something that cannot be understood.

Love at First Sight

"Thought that I was going crazy

Just having one those days yeah

Didn't know what to do

Then there was you

And everything went from wrong to right

And the stars came out and filled up the sky

The music you were playing really blew my mind

It was love at first sight..."

Have you heard that song before? If so, who sang this song? Kylie Minogue. She is my favourite Aussie singer. Do you want to know what that song means? Okay, at first, I read and examined what it means. It means that when Kylie first saw her lover. She felt everything was perfect and priceless. Kylie knew it was love because she felt hope again. Her life changed in a good way. So when you met your lover for the first time at a party. You immediately attracted to your lover shapely figure and the way his or her hair scrambled over his or her eye when he smiled or she laughed. Your lover was enchanted by your deep whatever colour you have in your eyes and your witty conversation. It sounds like real to you. But it was love at first sight!

What will happen to you two in the next three weeks? During the next three weeks, you and your lover were unable to be separated. Then one night your lover received a devastating text message from a former boyfriend or girlfriend. Your lover contacted you for comfort. But you feel threatened and confused, and your respond is cold! So you thought that love will last forever.

Will you listen to Kylie Minogue's song Love at First Sight? It looks so popular to you. I loved that song! But now think of a real love and that is important. I will make another blog about love at first sight for this blog and when I will finish with this chapter and chapter five. So that you will learn more about what not to do with love at first sight. You know the action is important. Do you know why? Because of the word spoken "I love you" is not enough. So it is important for you to get to know a person's thoughts, hopes, fears, plans, habits, skills, and abilities. You meet a person in person, not the secret person of the heart. And when you meet a person, know how to know if he or she is real to you.

My beauty is still vain, anyway. Sorry men, 

you can't marry me. :( 

Because of that what Watchtower's new policy is.

Beauty Is Vain

Beautiful and handsome looks are vain. Just like in the last blog's Knotting Together. That, the scripture Proverbs 31:30 warns you 'beauty is vain'. So don't choose a person for only beautiful or handsome look, but for love. Because love is the wonderful quality. Read the beautiful scripture 1 Corinthians 13:4 about that love is not jealous. Love is important than appearance.

Do you notice a woman put a gold ring on her nose today? A gold ring on the nose was a popular adornment during Bible times. It was exquisite. (Proverbs 11:22) Are you falling in love with the looks or what that person is inside?

The Most Misleading Thing There Is

But some feel that the human heart has perfect romantic judgment. "Just listen to your heart. You will know when it's real love! Unfortunately, it's a false idea. Why? Because of many of you have failed relationship in the past. Yet, you "invariably described your current experience as love"! Most of you, though, will likely one day view your current involvement as you did your past ones - as mere fake love.

Tragically, the thousands of couples every year marry under the illusion of being 'in love' only to find shortly after that they have seriously mistake.

Proverbs 28:26 tells you not to trust your heart. As Jeremiah 17:9 explains 'that the heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked. Who can know it?' If you walk in wisdom, you will escape from the dangers and frustrations that you suffered if you learn the difference between infatuation and the love described in the Bible-love never fail.

Love Vs Infatuation

Infatuation is blind, not like reality. When you're infatuated with a person, you think that it is a real love.

Word "infatuation" means "short-lived passion for someone". That word is just called "fake love". It is silly and lonely. But the Bible describes "true love" in 1 Corinthians 13:4, 5.

Since it "seeketh not her own," love based on Bible principle is neither lonely nor selfish. True, a couple may have strong romantic feelings and mutual attraction. But these feelings are balanced by reason and deep respect for the other person. When you are really in love, you care just as much for the other person's welfare and happiness as you do for your own. You do not let overpowering emotion destroy good judgment.

Real Love's Example

The Bible tells a love story about Jacob and Rachel. The two of them met at the well where Rachel had come to water her father's sheep. Jacob was immediately attracted to her not only because she was beautiful, but because she was a worshiper of a true God. For more info, read Genesis 29:1-21.

It Takes Time!

True love don't hurt you. It takes time! Indeed, always get to know someone you met. 

Time also allows you to examine your romantic interest in the light of the Bible. Remember, love 'behave well', and "seeketh not her own". Is your companion eager match your successful plans or tell you to match only his or her own? Does he or she show you respect? Has he or she pressured you to do things that are really not good in order to satisfy selfish passion? Does this person tend to put you down or build you up in front of others? These questions can help you consider your feelings more objectively.

Rushing in getting romance can invites disaster. Because of it shows you insecurity and self-centered. So your mate lost his or her romantic charm and become selfish. One day you will scream that your spouse is cheap, lazy, and flop. So what will your spouse react? Punch your face with his or her fist. That situation leads to end of the marriage.

However, the Bible's counsel you would no doubt keeping your marriage. (Ephesians 5:22-33). Real love does happen everyday. So how can you know if a person is real to you? Trust your Bible. Get to know that person's inside. Give the relationship time to blossom. Remember, infatuation reaches disease in a short time but then fades. Genuine love grows stronger with time and become a perfect match.-Colossians 3:14